Sunday, April 26, 2015

Baby Shower

A diaper and a wrapped gift

Yesterday, we had our baby shower. It's so strange to be nearing the end of this pregnancy.



Me showing off my belly next to my husband
I am HUGE though

The location was an outdoor park pavilion, and the day was cold and cloudy, but we made the most of it. Our amazing friend, Beth organized the whole thing. And she made sure there was coffee, warm food, and space heaters. I owe a huge thanks to her and to all the people who came out to brave the cold with us.

I insisted on a family-style shower. It seems silly to me to only invite women. So everyone was welcome, and we had an informal potluck set-up.



I was also opposed to the usual shower games. I know... I'm a pain. We were not without activities though. Our friend Michelle worked with Beth to coordinate a baby-clothing decorating table. I think it was a big hit!

3 people at a picnic table painting baby clothes

I can't wait to dress our wee one in these bespoke puff-paint masterpieces!


One tradition I guess I couldn't get out of was opening gifts in front of everyone. I told our guests they didn't all have to drop everything and watch, but they did anyway. God bless our friends!

my husband and I opening gifts

One of the first times I ever felt like an 'adult' was when I got really excited about buying a vacuum cleaner. I guess I'm starting to dip my toes into parenthood now, because I got really excited about diapers and disposable milk bags!

My husband and I ended the day feeling very well loved and supported. I know welcoming a new life into the world is tough, but we sure aren't doing it alone!

my husband and I posing for a picture
THANK YOU!

Saturday, April 18, 2015

On Being Pregnant

Now that I've been "in the family way" for a while, I figure an update/reflection is in order. Here's a list of things which have surprised me so far.

"How are you feeling?"
This has become the first question anyone asks me. At first, it really threw me. I thought, do all of my friends really want a list of side-effects? If so, I haven't much to report. My symptoms are pretty much just mild-ish versions of what is typical: nausea at first, back/hip pain as I near the end, and the persistent urge to pee. I've started referring to myself as the 'Hulk-of-pee'. He's always angry; I can always benefit from a trip to the loo.

photo of pregnant lady painted green and posing as the hulk
"Pregnant Hulk Smash...
 toilet-paper supply"
 (source)


Lately, I've started looking at this question differently. I make an effort to talk about my emotional state (generally excited/nervous). And then I get to turn it around and ask my friend how they are. It's weird how often people seem surprised to be asked. Maybe we should all append 'feeling' to the end of our "how are you"s more often.

"Top 10 Worst..."
In person, everyone is very excited about this kid. They congratulate us, and ask caring questions. On the internet, however, pregnancy seems to be good for one thing: griping.
I turned to mommy-blogs early because I want to learn everything I can about this parenting thing before I dive in head first. I have been surprised to find a general lack of positivity. The straight-forward sources are alright, though everything comes with a warning ("call your doctor if..."). And the more personal blogs are full of reasons to never, ever have a kid. Lists of "Fun grown-up stuff you'll never do again", "Irritating things strangers will say", and "Trials all parents must survive" are all over the place. I know it's good to be told you're not alone when times are tough, but I hope these articles are mostly exaggerations. Who knows, maybe in short time I'll be posting here with an "I love my kid, but..." diatribe too.

Screen capture of mommy blog article with a banner ad for a Lizzie Borden TV program
Another surprise: banner ads take on new meanings
"Be fun or else!"
(source)

"How does your husband feel about this?"
I do have one gripe of my own, and it's regarding this question. For the record, he's just as excited as I am, if not more. We talked about having kids on our third date. But lots of people have warily asked this question. Strangely, no one has asked me if I'm excited... Anyway, it's 2015 folks. Let's stop thinking this way. We are smart adults in a loving, committed relationship and with full access to birth control. My husband is on-board.

Photo of my husband giving a toddler a ride on his back
Shane and his niece 5.5 years ago
The guy likes kids.

Community Support
One of the best surprises has come from folks like you! I'm a hard-core introvert. So, while I love my friends and family, connecting with them doesn't always come easily to me. Even so, in the last few months we've been inundated with kind advice, and shared enthusiasm. Especially, my parents and I have become closer since I became pregnant. If there is anyone more excited to meet this baby than Shane and I are, it is my mother.
An amazing friend has agreed to be our doula; to guide us through the birth process. We have four (maybe five) family members planning to travel long distances to care for us while we adjust to life with our new little one. And I can honestly say I am excited about the baby shower being thrown for us soon. (I am not a typical shower-loving kind of gal.)

Thanks for being awesome, guys.

There are only about two months left before my life suddenly and dramatically changes forever. Bring it on!


Sunday, April 5, 2015

Happy Easter!

Big thanks to my mom for sending this super-cute Easter gift our way.


Actual conversation with my husband:
Me: Oh, look at the cute little bunny for the baby!
Shane: You'll have to feed it to him.
Me: I'm not sure how long we'll have to keep it before he's allowed to eat chocolate...
Shane: No, by eating it yourself!
I love how that man's brain works.
May all of you be blessed with chocolate this weekend!
(or next week when it goes on clearance!)

Saturday, December 27, 2014

Happy Holidays!

Announcing our most ambitious DIY project yet:



A Baby!! We plan to welcome the wee one in mid-June 2015.
A few FAQs:

  • I'm feeling great! We are both so super excited, we often find ourselves smiling for no reason.
  • No, we don't know the gender yet
  • Yes, we probably will find out with the ultrasound. But we don't actually care.
  • Yes, we do have names picked out! They are awesome.

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, and a Happy New Year!!

Saturday, December 20, 2014

She Lives!!

Well that was an unexpectedly long hiatus. I have a good explanation though. I've been doing school! Back in May, I quit my dead-end receptionist job and enrolled full time at the local community college. I'm working toward an Associate's Degree in Software Development; and I took 17 credits (5 classes) in both the summer and fall semesters. Hence, no time or spoons for blogginating.

But it's been worth it! I've learned a bunch of different programming languages. I got on the dean's list last summer. And I got all A's again this fall (so maybe I'm staying on that list).

My dean's list certificate in a place of honour

I've been taking all of my classes online. This has been great because I get to do work on my own schedule, and I don't have to be around people all the time. (I'm an extreme introvert.) It has also been a challenge because I have to set my own schedule, and I have very few reasons to leave the apartment and see people.

My study-buddy

I've been very blessed to have a few people who kept me sane during this time. Good friends checked up on me, and got me outside. (Special thanks to LuAnn for coffee dates!) My programmer pal Seth was a huge help: giving me advice, encouragement, and sometimes a second set of eyes on more sticky programming assignments. And my incredibly amazing husband was super supportive. For instance, he took on all household chores by himself for the better part of the fall. I bet he's really happy to have me helping with the dishes again!

Beth brought the party to me for my birthday

Next semester, I'm only doing school part-time. If all goes well, I should be graduating in May! I hope this less-demanding course load will allow me to take on a few other projects. (Like blogging more maybe?) Graduation will come just in time for me to finish another big-deal project that I've been working for a while now. (Shane's helped with that too.) I bet you're curious, but that's a story for another post. ;) (...hopefully, that post will be up sooner than 8 months from now...)

Friday, April 4, 2014

Yoga and Meditation Retreat

Two things I very rarely do voluntarily are difficult exercise, and spending time away from my husband. Last month, I did both, and I felt great about it! (Don't get me wrong though; I still missed him, and my couch.)

When some folks at our church announced they were hosting a Yoga and Meditation Retreat, my first thought was, "That's great for other people." My second thought was, "Actually, I would probably benefit a lot from this." My third was, "Quick! Sign up now before you talk yourself out of it!" So I did.

Photo (and subject) courtesy of organizer Lauren

The thing is, I've never really done yoga or meditation before. I wasn't too worried about the meditation, but the yoga was another story. I bought a mat and found a free video guide online. It turns out my new living room is pretty much perfect for yoga in front of the TV. Just move the coffee table aside, and you're ready to go! (A side bonus of this practice is I'm motivated to clean the floors regularly.) The end result: I certainly didn't become a yogi in the time between sign-up and retreat, but I wasn't totally lost either.

The retreat was held at Raccoon Creek State Park over a weekend. (I went tent camping there last summer.) The facilities were much nicer than I expected, and we had the place to ourselves.

Our lovely little cabin

We started out Friday evening with yoga and introductions. Then we went to our cabins with instructions to stop talking to each other as soon as possible, and keep silent until lunch on Saturday. This idea freaked a lot of people out, but it was like heaven on earth to me! It freed me from social pressures so I could really concentrate on what we were learning. I was sad when lunch ended and everyone started talking again. I actually went back to the cabin to be alone and try to stretch it out a bit. That's one thing which really impressed me about the way the retreat was run: They made it very clear that you could skip out on anything if participation was not in the best interests of your self-care.

Yoga
(Apologies: I cannot recall this instructor's name)
(Photo stolen from Lauren's Facebook)

One of the things that surprised me about this retreat was the large amount of focus placed on meditation toward mindfulness. I was geared up for the yoga beforehand, but it turned out to be just a tool for mindfulness itself. I knew a little about the practice going in, but not as much as I thought I did. Brandi worked with us on basic principles and gave us a great hand-out. (It may be a helpful introduction if the idea is new to you.) She also put us through an intense yoga session to practice mindfulness in discomfort. Neil coached us in mindful walking and eating, and hosted a fascinating presentation about emotional mindfulness.

Brandi teaching
(Photo stolen from Lauren's Facebook)

The experience was peaceful and it was also a lot of work. The weekend blew by quickly. In the month or so since then, I've had a hard time incorporating what I learned in my daily life. We were warned that would be the case. Still, I can see some benefits which have stuck with me through the last month. I have been more calm and focused. I've had an easier time becoming calm and focused when I'm not. And for the first time in forever, I'm hearing music in the back of my mind again. (Those of you who know me well will know that's a big deal.)

Thank you, friends and strangers who organized this retreat! And thank you friends, strangers, and new friends who participated along with me. I hope this can become a regular recurring event. (...and I hope next time I can talk Shane into joining me!)

Meditation
(Photo stolen from Lauren's Facebook)
Namaste.

P.S. My new background image is courtesy of the Graphics Fairy.

Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Embroidered Christmas Gifts

I promised you a post about the things I made for my family this Christmas, and here it is!

A bit of background: My mom made beautiful cross-stitched Christmas stockings for all of us kids when we were babies. A while back, she made two for her parents too. Starting last year, I got to hang mine along with an almost identical one she made for my husband! The thing is, Mom and Dad have never had their own stockings. I decided it was high time that changed.

Starting last spring, I worked on the stockings off and on all year. I learned  a lot along the way, and there are a few things I'd do differently if I were to do them over again now. For one thing, hand-sewing them together made me seriously consider buying a sewing machine! Anyway, without further ado, here are the finished products:

Patterns: Urban Threads and Craftsy

I wasn't in Minnesota to see my parents open their gifts, but I think they liked them!

(Those are their "Oh my gosh!" faces. Yes, Dad too. He's Norwegian-American.)

I made lots of tree ornaments for everyone else. Much more manageable! Also, it turns out I really enjoy sewing on felt.

Patterns: Wild Olive
My apologies for the poor picture quality.
Maybe after that sewing machine, I should get a new camera!
Just like in my most recent post, I saved the best for last. This time, my joy comes courtesy of my niece, Kaitlyn. She's super crafty and known for her interest in art. So I made her a DIY ornament kit. She totally nailed it!


This picture was, hands-down, the best gift I got this Christmas. Thanks, Kaitlyn!